• Registered: 2010-07-11
  • Posts: 1

Topic: Sexual Behaviour

Hi - I wonder if anyone has any advice on how to talk to a 16 year old boy with Aspergers about the appropriate way to show sexual feelings.  He has always veered towards young girls and it terrifies me that he will be inappropriate with them. His Dad and I are divorced and he visits him and his new family including an 11 year old girl.  He has gone unannounced into her bedroom to 'look' at her and this has resulted in him not being able to stay at the house any longer.

I have been very frank with him and told him it is wrong, but at the same time I don't want him to feel that it is wrong to have sexual feelings - I just don't know how to explain to him that it has to be with a woman and with consent.  He simply replies that he likes girls and he wants to see their private parts.  I am really worried.

Any help and guidance would be gratefully received.

Mumjules

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  • Registered: 2010-01-16
  • Posts: 49

Re: Sexual Behaviour

I would contact the NAS to see if they have any social stories that fit this dilemma, if not I'm sure that they can steer you in the right direction.

My initial reaction was a very old-fashioned one, but have you told him about being a "gentleman" in the true sense of the word? Being courteous and polite and how a true gentleman is never alone with a young lady? That sort of thing....That way, there can be no finger-pointing if something should happen.

This is a very delicate situation for you and my thoughts are with you x

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